Well, ok, there's more than 10 suggestions. I keep adding to the list and don't wanna continually update the title on this page.
I recommend these to clients depending on what they're interested in. If I've written a summary, the cover image is a link.
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|Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson: In my opinion, the most effective couples therapy is called Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples, or Couples EFT. This book is the first one people should read when undertaking the therapy. The followup book is Love Sense (below).|
|Being Mortal by Atul Gawande: If you only read one book about death and dying - this should be it.
It's a short read, but the points are valuable. I read this just after my first reading of Die Wise by Stephen Jenkinson and the combination was a powerful one-two wake-up punch to my responsibility in my dying. Neglecting the hard conversations leaves important decisions, perhaps the most important decisions of my life to my loved ones without my participation or guidance. Arguably, doing so borders on immoral, and is certainly unkind and inconsiderate for those who I love most.
|Memories of the Afterlife Edited by Michael Newton: There is a common near death experience that many people report. Brought to popular attention in 1975 with his book Life After Life, Raymond Moody set a standard for unbiased investigatory techniques to a singularly difficult subject. Likewise, Michael Newton using regression hypnosis has taken the study of life-after death to another level. This is fascinating reading to say the least.|
|Love Sense by Sue Johnson: After reading Hold Me Tight, couples interested in continuing their progress would do well to read this book. It's a bit more involved but the extra content is usually very helpful. Here's a snippet ...
Up close, this is what love looks like: I look at you with my eyes wide open, trying to capture your glance, and you catch my expression, widen your eyes, and take my arm. Alternatively, you ignore my bid for your attention, continue talking about your thoughts, and I turn away. In the next step, we resynchronize and reconnect. I turn back to you and lean forward and touch your arm; this time, you get my cue and turn toward me, smile, and ask me how I am. This tiny, fleeting moment of repair brings a rush of positive emotion. Moments of meeting are mutually delightful. (I always think that if we stopped and verbalized our innermost thoughts at this point, we would say something like “Oh, there you are” or even “Ah, here we are together.”)
|Die Wise by Stephen Jenkinson: I've had a chronic illness for 18 years that has defied diagnosis and modern medical technology. And as is often the case, my suffering became my teacher. Although dying was not pronounced on me by those who usually have that task, I allowed myself the adventure of experiencing the mental and emotional story of such a situation. My quest for dying mentors/wisdom keepers in the shamanic tradition I support, led me to find Die Wise. It's a great book.
It's a thought provoking read. It's also long. But like fine wine it is worth the sipping. I've taken extensive notes and my intention is to post a summery here during 2019. Till then, here's a snippet to invite you to read it.
A book about dying is a book awash in the great mystery of what is to become of us. So it’s a book about time. A book about dying should wonder again and again whether the river of time and life flows toward the future and the not-yet and carries us there, as most of us are taught, or toward the past and the known, toward all who have been, as some of us suspect.
The night of wonder must be a long one, and sometime before dawn it will come to this: When I die, am I past? Am I gone? Lost?
|Transforming the Difficult Child by Howard Glasser: I highly recommend this book for all parents and grandparents!
After reading this book, a colleque and I flew to Tucson Arizona and did 6 days of professional training with Glasser, so I can vouch for the methodology he presents. It is transformative, and I've used it successfully with my wife's young clients who were 'difficult'. Additionally, we use the methods with our granddaughter with excellent results. In the Transactional Model of Psychotherapy there is a concept called 'strokes', within which the Glasser method resides. I've written an informative document on this topic and included it in the Quick Read section of this website with the title 'Show Me The Strokes'.
|Crossing the Owl's Bridge by Kim Bateman: An exceptionally wise book!
In many aspects of living as a human being, having access to the experiences of others and what they learned is valuable. This book is about death and grieving experiences. It offers us wisdom stories from which we might choose to live with the death of a loved one differently, with less suffering.
|Mad in America by Robert Whitaker: If you've been in or are in the mental health field, or an institution, you need to read this book!
It's a history of psychiatric medicine in North America, and it's both fascinating and disturbing. Click the cover photo for more.
|Proof of Heaven by Eben Alexander: Dr. Alexander has been a neurosurgeon for the past 25+ years. His book, Proof of Heaven: A Neurosurgeon's Journey into the Afterlife, is a very credible thought provoking first person account of his near death experience. He blends his subjective experience with what was taking place around him in the hospital while he was unconscious and near death. Click the image for my extracts from the book.|